大学英语快速阅读-4-(第二版)-新题型

　　《大学英语快速阅读（4 第二版 新题型 南方版）》：　　What you want to learn is how to recognize when you're ticked and deal with it effectively.This way， you get to express yourself and you probably get more of what you need from others and respect them and yourself in the process.　　One healthy way to deal with your anger （one that works great with parents in particular） is the cool down approach.Here it is in four easy steps：　　1.When something gets you really steamed， try to stop， calm down， and think before you do or say anything.　　2.Once you're calm， try to say what the problem is and how it makes you feel.（"Mom， I don' t like it when you hand out a punishment before you' ve even given me the chance to do what you've asked.It makes me feel like a little kid."）　　3.Try to think of some solutions and what the consequences of the solutions would be （one solution here would be not cleaning your room— but if you thought about it， you' d see where that would get you）.　　4.Explain your solution and try to put it into action.（"In the future， would you please tell me what you' d like me to do first and wait to see if I do it before you threaten punishment？"）　　This can turn out well for everyone—you focus your attention on stopping your anger， you get to say how you feel， and hopefully， your mom won't talk to you in that way that enrages you again.But if this approach sounds a little too formal， there are other things you can do.Here's a list of suggestions：　　Listen to music （with your headphones on） and dance with some anger—inspired energy.　　Write it down—in any form—poetry or a journal， for example.　　Draw it—scribble， doodle， or sketch your angry feelings using strong color or lines.　　Play a sport or work out—you' ll be amazed at how physical activity helps to work the anger out.　　Meditate or practice deep breathing.This one works best if you do it regularly， not when you' re actually having a meltdown—it' s more of a stress management technique and will help you use self—control and not blow a fuse when you're mad.　　Talk about your feelings with someone you trust.Lots of times there are other feelings such as fear or sadness beneath anger.Talking about these feelings can help.　　Distract yourself so you can get your mind past what' s bugging you—watch TV， read， or go to the movies instead of stewing for hours about something.　　You might even try going somewhere secluded and yelling at the top of your lungs.What we don' t recommend is screaming at the person you' re mad at， whining， sulking， throwing things， or making any kind of physical threat or attack.These things are likely to escalate the situation—and maybe even hurt someone.　　……